Read It My Life Now Meg Kennedy Dugan Roger R Hock Books

Product details Paperback 254 pages Publisher Routledge; 3 edition (June 24, 2018) Language English ISBN-10 0415415195

It My Life Now Meg Kennedy Dugan Roger R Hock Books Reviews

• This book is hard to read because of the way the truth hurts so bad. It's an excellent book for you if you've been in an abusive relationship and still not sure whether you want to let go of the past or give him another chance, because sometimes we get confused and attached to the abuse. But, this book is going to make sure you do the correct thing by yourself, let go...own your life and move on. It will help you to heal and put the past behind you. You deserve the best. You are the best. A must read for all the people who have lost themselves due to abuse. Remember, you're special and don't let anything he told you bring you down.. before reading this book, i used to be confused about why I still want to love the abuser despite of everything he did to me. But after reading this book, which I am ever so thankful, I know what i want and need and want i am. It definitely does not include the abuser. I'm happy to finally have found the strength to believe in myself and i would not have done so without this wonderful book.
• I bought this book because it was recommended in Lundy Bancroft's amazing book ("Why Does He Do That?"). If you are currently in or have ever been in an abusive relationship, this book and Mr. Bancroft's are the best. These are people who really, truly understand abuse at every level.
• Most books emphasize current abusive relationships. This book specifically discusses life after the abuse to those fortunate enough to escape. It is an interactive book with work pages. This book is good to read independently or in exercises with a therapist. I highly recommend this book for anyone in a DV shelter or receiving DV services.
• This book understood me and everything I went through. Its incredibly reassuring. It also reminds you to be patient with your healing. Highly recommended!
• Helpful advice as I just left my abusive husband. I didn't realize how predictable these type of men can be. The author described almost exactly the type of issues that I am having now that I have left.
• This book has been very helpful to me in recovering from an abusive marriage. In fact, if you only have the money for one "recovery from abuse" book, this one is the one to get. It covers every type of abuse, even spiritual abuse, which was very relevant to my experiences in a bizarre cultic marriage in which I was beaten over the head with the Bible and told to "submit" all the time. The tone that the book is written in is wonderful. It is neither "oh, you poor pathetic baby" or "get over it, toots" but strikes exactly the right tone--empowering and empathetic but not patronizing or overbearing.
  The book helps you not only analyze what happened to you and why, but gets you into the healing process. This book helped me quit beating myself up for ending up with and staying with an abuser (and having SIX children with him into the bargain), for still having feelings for my abusive husband, and for being tempted to go back. Some of the exercises at the end of the chapters were kind of silly, and I skipped them, but some were excellent. The exercise that helped me the most was the one that helped me to look back and remember why I fell in love with that chump to begin with. It WASN'T because I am brainless.
  The absolute best thing about this book, in my opinion, is the final chapter. Prior to reading it, I had no idea how in the world I managed to marry an abusive control freak and was scared to death of getting hooked by another one. This chapter really helped me feel capable of choosing another partner who is not abusive. The author tells you exactly what danger signs to look for. I missed every one of them the first time, but I won't miss them again!
• I knew that my relationship was unhealthy when I left, but reading this book validated, not only my decision to leave, but also my mixed feelings and struggles after the fact. I would suggest it to anyone who may think they may be in an abusive relationship.
• If you have survived an abusive relationship and are working to solidify your resolve to stay out of this abusive relationship and not choose to be in another abusive relationship, this book is very helpful. I would suggest that you have an abuse trained counselor working with you as you read through this book. The question/answer section of this book has been intense - helping me to remember and record what happened in my abusive relationship - which has been extremely helpful in my counseling AND in strengthening my personal resolve to recognize and avoid toxic relationships.